Why Work With Me

Because your relationship deserves more than surface-level therapy.

Most couples don’t come to me because they want better communication tips. They come because they are exhausted. The same fight keeps happening. The same shutdown. The same hurt. And no matter how hard they try, they cannot seem to break the pattern.

You don’t need someone to analyze your childhood for six months while your marriage deteriorates. You need someone who can see what’s happening between you — in real time — and help you change it.

I only do couples work. This is not something I “also” offer. My training, my continuing education, and my clinical focus are built around relationships. When two people sit in front of me, I am not just listening to what you’re saying. I’m tracking how you move toward and away from each other. I can see when anger is fear. When criticism is longing. When silence is self-protection.

That kind of clarity comes from doing this work every day.

Why Specialization Matters

Couples therapy is harder than individual therapy. Not emotionally harder — technically harder.

You’re not working with one nervous system. You’re working with two. And when one gets louder, the other often shuts down. When one pursues, the other distances. If a therapist doesn’t know how to slow that down carefully, sessions can turn into replays of the same fight.

I am trained to:

Slow escalation without shutting either of you down
Keep both partners emotionally safe
Identify the pattern underneath the conflict
Help you repair instead of defend

A good general therapist can be insightful. But couples work is its own discipline. When it’s done well, it changes the trajectory of a relationship. When it’s done poorly, it can make things worse.

The Value

Sessions are $175 for 90 minutes.

That reflects specialization. It reflects training. And it reflects efficiency.

Focused work means we don’t wander. We map your pattern early. We name it. We work directly with it. Weekly sessions at the beginning keep momentum so therapy doesn’t stretch into something vague and endless.

Research on Emotionally Focused Therapy consistently shows strong outcomes for distressed couples. But the model works best when the therapist actually practices it and understands relational dynamics deeply. You are paying for someone who knows the terrain and can help you move through it without causing more damage along the way.

When It Really Matters

I often work with couples who are:

On the brink of separation
Recovering from betrayal
Stuck in pursue-withdraw cycles
Still in love but deeply disconnected

I also work well with skeptics. If you think therapy is pointless or you’ve tried it before and it didn’t help, that’s okay. I’m not here to sell you on feelings. I’m here to help you change a pattern.

If you’re serious about rebuilding trust, restoring connection, and doing the kind of work that actually shifts a relationship, I’m ready.