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Skeptics Welcome: What If Couples Therapy Is BS?
Skeptical about couples therapy? A plainspoken look at what useful therapy should do—and why you do not have to arrive convinced it will work.
Shira Hearn
Jan 205 min read


Emotionally Focused Therapy for Marriage Counseling
Still having the same fight after trying to communicate better? Learn how Emotionally Focused Therapy works with the cycle underneath the argument.
Shira Hearn
Jan 204 min read


A Therapist Can Say They Use EFT. What Does That Actually Mean?
At a conference this week, almost half the therapists in the room said they use EFT. Here is what that should mean in the room, and four questions to ask before you choose one.
Shira Hearn
1 day ago3 min read


Christian Marriage Counseling or Pastoral Counseling: What Is the Difference?
Compare Christian marriage counseling and pastoral counseling by role, training, goals, privacy, and the place of faith—and decide what support fits.
Shira Hearn
3 days ago3 min read


What If Only One of Us Wants Christian Marriage Counseling?
When only one spouse wants Christian marriage counseling, get specific about what each of you means, name your limits, and make room for both of you.
Shira Hearn
3 days ago3 min read


Why the Show Couples Therapy Gets Couples Therapy Wrong, And Why Real Couples Therapy Looks Very Different
Showtime's Couples Therapy is compelling television. Here is why it is a poor model of how couples therapy should work, and what real sessions look like.
Shira Hearn
3 days ago8 min read


Is Our Relationship Healthy? A Couples Self-Assessment Guide
Still having the same fight, feeling like roommates, or avoiding the hard conversations? Seven questions to help you look honestly at your relationship.
Shira Hearn
Oct 38 min read


My Goals for Couples Therapy Go Beyond Not Fighting
My goals for couples therapy: feel at ease together, find your way out of fights, catch conflict early, and repair old wounds. Shira Hearn, LMFT.
Shira Hearn
Oct 18 min read


Why Insurance Probably Won't Cover Your Couples Therapy (And What to Do Instead)
Will insurance help pay for couples therapy? Why coverage often falls short, what superbills can and can't do, and what appointments cost at RRT.
Shira Hearn
Oct 16 min read


How-To Guide: Communication and Conflict Resolution for Couples
Learn how to slow an escalating argument, explain what hurt, hear your partner, and make practical agreements when the same conflict keeps returning.
Shira Hearn
Sep 305 min read


How-To Guide: Convincing Your Spouse to Try Couples Therapy
Spouse reluctant to try couples therapy? Learn how to bring it up, address concerns, ask for a first appointment, and respond if the answer is no.
Shira Hearn
Sep 305 min read


What Actually Makes Couples Therapy Work
What should you look for in couples therapy? A closer look at therapist effectiveness, the working relationship, and how EFT helps partners reach each other.
Shira Hearn
Sep 3012 min read


Why I Don’t Offer Online Couples Therapy
I’ve tried online couples therapy, and I find it harder to feel connected and follow what is happening between partners. Here’s why I choose to work in person.
Shira Hearn
Sep 275 min read


Will a Couples Therapist Take Sides?
Worried couples therapy will turn into a blame session? Here is how I approach being heard, accountability, and the first appointment.
Shira Hearn
Sep 264 min read


Couples Therapy vs. Marriage Counseling: Is There a Difference?
Couples therapy and marriage counseling often mean the same thing. Here is what to ask about training, approach and practical details before choosing a therapist.
Shira Hearn
Sep 244 min read


Why Every Talk Turns Into the Same Fight
Understand why the same argument keeps returning, find the moment your conversation changes, and learn how couples therapy can help you respond differently.
Shira Hearn
Sep 236 min read


How to Choose a Marriage Counselor in the Joplin Area
Compare marriage counselors in the Joplin area using questions about couples training, approach, fees, session length, and how both partners will be heard.
Shira Hearn
Sep 213 min read


Is My Marriage Worth Saving? Questions That Help You See Clearly
Unsure whether to stay together? Consider safety, accountability, willingness, and visible change—and how couples therapy can help you make your own decision.
Shira Hearn
Sep 193 min read


Is ChatGPT Getting Your Therapy Practice Wrong?
ChatGPT may be getting your therapy practice wrong—fees, services, insurance status, and more. Here’s how to audit the errors, trace their sources, and correct what AI says about your practice.
Shira Hearn
Sep 197 min read


Couples Therapist Credentials: What MFT and Other Letters Mean
MFT, PsyD, PhD, LPC: what do the letters actually mean for couples therapy? Learn why relational training and specialization matter more than prestige.
Shira Hearn
Sep 155 min read
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