Shira Hearn's Blog

Born in Jerusalem, couples therapist Shira Hearn reflects on Israel’s national anthem “Hatikvah” and the deeper psychology of hope. Drawing from her work at Mt. Hope Christian Counseling Center and the influence of Cameron Lee at Fuller Theological Seminary, this post explores how hope functions as imagination for the future in both relationships and human resilience.

When people search for “marriage counseling near me,” it’s often because anger has taken over the relationship. Arguments escalate quickly. One partner feels blamed, while the other feels unheard. Both feel stuck. When your partner is angry, it’s easy to assume that the anger is the problem. It’s loud, uncomfortable, and can feel personal. But in healthy marriage counseling, anger is usually understood as a signal—not the root issue. Anger often shows up when something impo

If you’re here because your partner dragged you, let’s get this out of the way: You’re probably right to be skeptical. A lot of couples therapy is useless. A lot of it turns into emotional rambling, blame disguised as “processing,” or communication tips that collapse the second anyone gets triggered. If that’s what you think therapy is, you’re not (all) Couples therapy for partners skeptical of counseling, focused on practical change and emotional safety in relationships. wr

Emotionally Focused Therapy helps couples feel safe, connected, and understood again. Learn how EFT works and why it’s so effective for relationships.If you’ve ever tried to “communicate better” and still ended up in the same fight, you already know the hard truth: relationship problems usually aren’t a communication-skills problem. Most couples don’t get stuck because they don’t love each other. They get stuck because, over time, the relationship stops feeling emotionally sa