Shira Hearn, LMFT MO #2022045023
RADICALLY DIFFERENT THERAPY
Marriage & Couples Counseling in Joplin, MOFor relationships
ready for real change.
The Four States’ only therapist devoted exclusively to couples.
Same argument. Different Tuesday.
No-fluff, no-BS therapy for couples who want
something to actually change.
You miss feeling like their person. Being able to talk, laugh, touch, and trust that you’re on the same side. Let’s work on what keeps getting between you.
Your love story still has chapters to write.
A different way forward ↓
An exclusively couples-focused practice
per appointment
Joplin & Webb City
enough time to do the work
Both partners. In the room.
near Joplin & Webb City
Self-pay
both partners attend
When talking stops working
You know how this conversation ends
before it even starts.
You try to talk. It turns into a fight. One of you pushes harder, the other pulls away, and somehow you both end up feeling alone.
Maybe you ’ve tried being calmer. Being clearer. Waiting for a better time. Or you’ve stopped bringing things up altogether.
You may still love each other. You may even have plenty of good moments. But when something hurts, you struggle to reach each other.
You need a way to have the difficult conversation—and come out feeling closer.
We talk in circles.
You explain harder. They defend harder. Nothing gets resolved, and both of you leave feeling misunderstood.
We feel like roommates.
The logistics still function, but warmth, curiosity, affection, and the feeling of being chosen have gone quiet.
Trust was broken.
One of you needs answers and reassurance. The other feels watched, ashamed, or desperate to move forward.
Sex feels loaded.
Desire, rejection, pressure, or silence has turned intimacy into another place where both of you can get hurt.
What we’re working toward
I want more for you than fewer fights.
Fewer fights are a start. But I want you to enjoy each other again.
I want you to bring up something difficult and feel heard. To see an argument coming and change course. To find your way back when you get it wrong—and repair the hurts that still come between you.
I want room for teasing, affection, sex, and conversations you don’t have to rehearse in your head.
That’s what we’re working toward: a relationship that feels good to be in.
Your love story still has chapters to write.
We’ll slow down the moments where you
lose each other.
I’m Shira Hearn, a licensed marriage and family therapist. My private practice is devoted exclusively to couples.
Working with two people—and what happens between them—is the focus of my entire practice.
One of you says, “You never listen.” The other starts defending everything they did that day. When that familiar argument starts in my office, I help you slow it down while it’s happening—so we can get to what needs to be heard and help you respond to each other differently.
This is the work of Emotionally Focused Therapy: understanding what happens between you and practicing a different way of reaching each other. I’ll be direct with both of you, make room for the hurt, and help guide the conversation.
What feels different in the room
Shira Hearn, LMFT MO #2022045023
• I help you find the words underneath the reaction—the words that usually never make it into the conversation.
• We practice a different response in the room instead of only talking about what you should do later.
Does this sound familiar?
Maybe this is what happens
between you.
Maybe you know exactly what is wrong. Maybe you only know that you cannot keep living like this. Either is enough.
You explain harder. They defend harder. Nothing gets resolved, and both of you leave feeling misunderstood.
The logistics still function, but warmth, curiosity, affection, and the feeling of being chosen have gone quiet.
One of you needs answers and reassurance. The other feels watched, ashamed, or desperate to move forward.
Desire, rejection, pressure, or silence has turned intimacy into another place where both of you can get hurt.
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What we can work on
Let’s change what happens between you.
Whether you’re caught in the same argument, struggling after an affair, or missing closeness and intimacy, we’ll work on what keeps you apart and what you want to be different.
“We came in after 10 years of feeling disconnected and didn’t know if we could find our way back. Shira’s approach was direct and genuinely caring—she helped us understand what was really happening beneath our arguments. Within a few sessions, we felt like we were on the same team again instead of against each other. Highly recommend.”
— A.Y., Joplin, Missouri
A different way forward
You’ve had plenty of practice getting stuck.
Let’s practice finding each other.
01
See the cycle.
We slow down the familiar spiral: the moment one of you pushes, the other retreats, and you both lose the conversation you meant to have.
02
Say what is underneath.
We make room for the hurt, fear, and longing that can be hard to hear once the accusations and defenses start flying.
03
Practice reaching each other.
You get help having a different conversation, responding in a different way, and finding your way back when the old pattern returns.
Pick the way that feels easiest.
Choose a time online, call or text me at 417-768-9089, or email me. If online scheduling feels like one more thing to coordinate, I will help you find a time that works.
Once you have a time, complete the brief electronic paperwork before you arrive. You do not need matching explanations, a polished history of every fight, or a rehearsed opening statement. You just need to show up.
Prefer a person? Call or text 417-768-9089 · Email shira@radicalrelationshiptransformation.com
A few things you might be wondering
Questions before
you come in.
I’ll work to understand both of you, and I’ll be direct about behavior that causes harm. Both partners need room to be heard, take responsibility, and make changes.
You do not have to arrive equally enthusiastic. If one of you is worried the appointment will become a chance to blame them, say so. I want to understand that concern, too. You may have very different explanations for why you’re here; we’ll make room for both and look at what happens between you.
No. I work with couples who are dating, engaged, or married.
Appointments are 90-minute double sessions and cost $250. Ninety minutes gives us room to understand what happened and work through it together. Both partners attend in person. Sessions are self-pay; I do not take insurance.
We’ll talk about what brought you in, what each of you wants help with, and what happens when things go wrong between you. You do not need a polished history or matching explanations. I’ll help you get started.
Tell me what helped, what didn’t, and what you are reluctant to repeat. We’ll discuss how I work and what you need from therapy.
In-person appointments near Joplin
Let’s work on the relationship you want to come home to.
At the first appointment, we’ll look at what keeps happening between you and what each of you wants to change. I’ll help guide the conversation. Choose a time online, or call or text me and I’ll help you find one.
The practical part
$250
90-minute double session
In person · Both partners present · Self-pay
Choose a time online, or get in touch and I’ll help you find a time that works. Complete the brief electronic paperwork before you arrive.
Prefer a person? Call or text
417-768-9089
shira@radicalrelationshiptransformation.com
Shira Hearn, LMFT MO #2022045023
In-person couples therapy near Joplin & Webb City.
Your love story still has chapters to write.
Webb City, MO 64870 · Serving the Joplin area
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