RADICAL RELATIONSHIP
TRANSFORMATION
Shira Hearn, LMFT MO #2022045023
An exclusively couples-focused practice
Marriage & Couples Counseling in Joplin, MO for Relationships Ready for Real Change
Same argument. Different Tuesday.
You try to talk. It turns into a fight. One of you pushes harder, the other pulls away, and somehow you both end up feeling alone.
No-fluff, no-BS therapy for couples who want something to actually change.
Shira Hearn, LMFT · MO #2022045023
Couples are my whole practice.
$250
per appointment
90 minutes
enough time to do the work
In person
near Joplin & Webb City
Self-pay
both partners attend
When talking stops working
You know how this conversation ends before it even starts.
Maybe you’ve tried being calmer. Being clearer. Waiting for a better time. Explaining it one more time, because surely this time your partner will understand.
Or you’ve stopped bringing things up altogether. You can get through dinner, handle the kids, and discuss the calendar. Anything more feels like walking into traffic.
You may still love each other. You may even have plenty of good moments. But when something hurts, you struggle to reach each other—and the things you do to get through it keep making it worse.
You need a way to have the difficult conversation and come out of it feeling closer.
We talk in circles.
You explain harder. They defend harder. Nothing gets resolved, and both of you leave feeling misunderstood.
We feel like roommates.
The logistics still function, but warmth, curiosity, affection, and the feeling of being chosen have gone quiet.
Trust was broken.
One of you needs answers and reassurance. The other feels watched, ashamed, or desperate to move forward.
Sex feels loaded.
Desire, rejection, pressure, or silence has turned intimacy into another place where both of you can get hurt.
A DIFFERENT WAY TO SEE THE PROBLEM
You’ve had plenty of practice getting stuck.
Let’s practice finding each other.
When you’ve repeated a fight enough times, it can start to feel inevitable. You recognize the look. You hear the tone. You brace yourself, and the familiar responses take over.
We’ll work toward making those moments less automatic: noticing what is happening sooner, putting words to what hurts, and responding in ways that give the conversation somewhere else to go.
One therapist. All couples.
We’ll slow down the moments where you lose each other.
I’m Shira Hearn, a licensed marriage and family therapist and my private practice is devoted exclusively to couples.
I use Emotionally Focused Therapy. In our sessions, we’ll look closely at what happens between you: what sets things off, what each of you feels, how you respond, and how that response lands with your partner.
For one person, “You never talk to me” may carry the fear, I don’t matter to you.
For the other, going quiet may mean, Whatever I say will make this worse.
Those feelings can be difficult to see once the accusations and defenses start flying. My job is to help you get underneath them—and help you say what is happening in a way your partner can begin to hear.
Then we work with it in the room. You get help having the conversation that usually falls apart at home.
I’ll be direct with both of you. We’ll make room for the hurt, and we’ll look honestly at the ways each of you contributes to what happens next.
Shira
Hearn.
Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist
MO #2022045023
Radical Relationship Transformation
One therapist. All couples.
• We practice a different response in the room instead of only talking about what you should do later.
Does this sound familiar?
Maybe this is what happens between you…
By the time you’re arguing about what happened, you’re often already hurting over what it seemed to mean.
One of you needs to talk. Right now.
The other needs space. The harder one pushes, the further the other retreats.
01
Small things become enormous.
A tone, an unanswered text, or a forgotten task turns into a fight about the whole relationship.
02
You try to explain. Again.
You’re trying to say, “That hurt me.” Your partner hears, “You did something wrong.”
Or you’re overwhelmed and need a break. Your partner thinks you don’t want to be close.
Now you’re arguing about what you meant, and what you needed gets lost.
03
You function well. You feel miles apart.
You manage a household. You miss having a partner.
04
Old hurts keep coming back.
You’ve discussed them, apologized, or agreed to move on. They still show up in the next argument.
05
Closeness has become complicated.
Initiating, declining, or talking about sex leaves someone feeling unwanted, pressured, or alone.
06
What we’re working toward
I want more for you than fewer fights.
Fewer fights are a start. The goal is intimacy and engagement—feeling close, turning toward each other, and enjoying being together again.
You notice the old spiral earlier, say what actually landed, stay in the room, and repair it before bedtime.
There is room again for inside jokes, affection without pressure, and the small, ordinary pleasure of choosing each other.
You will still have bills, stress, families, and occasionally terrible timing. The difference is that you know how to find each other again.
01 — See the fight coming.
Recognize the early moments when you start losing each other, while there’s still room to change what happens next.
02 — Find your way out.
When you do get caught in a fight, have a way to return to each other without hours of arguing or days of silence.
03 — Say what actually hurts.
Be able to talk about feeling lonely, unwanted, frightened, or let down without the conversation immediately becoming a defense of who did what.
04 — Repair what still follows you.
Work through past wounds with room for accountability, understanding, and the responses that were missing when the hurt happened.
05 — Feel more at ease together.
Ask for comfort. Share something difficult. Laugh. Be affectionate. Have an ordinary evening without constantly measuring the distance between you.
— A.Y., Joplin, Missouri
THE PRACTICAL PART, MINUS THE RUNAROUND
All the fine print
$250
90 minutes · In person · Both partners present
Sessions are self-pay (I don’t take insurance), held in person near Joplin and Webb City, and designed for both partners to attend.
Pick the way that feels easiest.
Choose a time online, call or text me at 417-768-9089, or email me. If online scheduling feels like one more thing to coordinate, I will help you find a time that works.
Once you have a time, complete the brief electronic paperwork before you arrive. You do not need matching explanations, a polished history of every fight, or a rehearsed opening statement. You just need to show up.
Prefer a person? Call or text 417-768-9089 · Email shira@radicalrelationshiptransformation.com
A few things you might be wondering
Questions before
you come in.
I’ll work to understand both of you, and I’ll be direct about behavior that causes harm. Both partners need room to be heard, take responsibility, and make changes.
You don’t have to arrive equally enthusiastic. One of you may be hopeful while the other is skeptical or tired of trying. We can talk openly about that.
No. I work with couples who are dating, engaged, or married.
Tell me what helped, what didn’t, and what you’re reluctant to repeat. We’ll discuss how I work and what you need from therapy.
Standard appointments are 90-minute double sessions and cost $250. That’s the equivalent of $125 per 45-minute session—a good value for a very experienced couples therapist in Joplin. Sessions are in person, with both partners present.
We’ll talk about what brought you in, what each of you wants help with, and what happens when things go wrong between you. You don’t need to prepare a perfect explanation. I’ll help you get started.
RADICAL RELATIONSHIP
TRANSFORMATION
Serving couples in the Joplin area.
Shira Hearn, LMFT MO #2022045023
417-768-9089 · Email Shira
Webb City, MO 64870
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