Shira Hearn, LMFT MO #2022045023
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Couples therapy in Joplin, MOThe subject changes. Let’s change the ending.
The Four States’ only therapist devoted exclusively to couples.
You want to stay together—and talk about something difficult without losing each other halfway through. I’ll help you understand the pattern that takes over and practice a different way of reaching each other.
Radical Relationship Transformation
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Experience for the difficult moments
Couples are my whole practice.
Couples are my entire practice.
The relationship between you is the focus of my private practice.
Thousands of hours in the room.
I bring thousands of clinical hours and practice high-fidelity Emotionally Focused Therapy, following its model closely.
An active, direct approach.
When the familiar fight starts, I help slow it down, hear what got lost, and guide a different conversation.
One possible argument loop
The argument has a pattern. Let’s find yours.
The subject changes, but the turn can feel familiar:
- “Are you even listening?” →
- “Nothing I do is good enough.” →
- Push harder. Pull further away. ↺
One person reaches more urgently; the other tries to protect themselves by retreating. You both end up hurting. We’ll look at your particular version and work on interrupting it together.
The same argument keeps returning with new material.
You explain harder. They defend harder. Nothing gets resolved, and both of you leave feeling misunderstood.
You share a home and still feel lonely.
The logistics still function, but warmth, curiosity, affection, and the feeling of being chosen have gone quiet.
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Desire, rejection, pressure, or silence has turned intimacy into another place where both of you can get hurt.
Emotionally Focused Therapy
There is a roadmap for this work.
Emotionally Focused Therapy follows three stages. We move at the pace your relationship needs, revisiting what needs more attention.
We make room for both people’s experience while staying direct about behavior that causes harm.
01
Slow the cycle.
We identify the familiar spiral and what each of you feels beneath the reactions. You practice recognizing it together before it takes over.
02
Reach each other.
I guide you through saying what hurts and what you need—and responding when your partner reaches for you. We work toward a more secure connection.
03
Take it home.
We bring those new responses into everyday problems: noticing trouble earlier, finding your way back, and repairing when the old pattern returns.
Radical Relationship Transformation
The Four States’ only practice devoted exclusively to couples.
At Radical Relationship Transformation, couples are my entire practice.
That focus means I’m continually working with the complicated moments you’re coming here for: the partner who goes quiet, the partner who urgently needs an answer, the hurt that keeps resurfacing, and the struggle to trust that reaching out will go well.
I pay attention to both of you and to what happens between you. I’ll help you understand your reactions, take responsibility for their impact, and practice giving each other a different response.
Whether you’re dealing with recurring conflict, emotional distance, damaged trust, or difficulties with sex and intimacy, our work centers on your relationship.
What we’re working toward
More ease. More honesty. More of you, together.
You will still have bills, stress, families, and occasionally terrible timing. We’re working toward knowing how to find each other again.
You notice the old spiral earlier, say what actually landed, stay in the room, and repair it before bedtime.
There is room again for inside jokes, affection without pressure, and the small, ordinary pleasure of choosing each other.
You will still have bills, stress, families, and occasionally terrible timing. The difference is that you know how to find each other again.
- Bring up something difficult. Work toward staying engaged and hearing each other.
- Repair after a fight. Notice the old pattern and find a way back.
- Enjoy affection again. Make room for comfort, closeness, and choosing each other.
— A.Y., Joplin, Missouri
Who I work best with
Could this be the right fit?
You want to stay together and make the relationship feel different. You’re willing to look at your own reactions and practice with my help.
One of you may be skeptical. You may have tried therapy before. We can make room for that while looking at what you each want to change.
Maybe you know exactly what is wrong. Maybe you only know that you cannot keep living like this. Either is enough.
Repeating arguments and communication breakdowns
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Emotional distance or living like roommates
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Affair recovery and rebuilding trust
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Sex, desire, and intimacy concerns
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Deciding whether the relationship can be repaired
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A place to begin
What happens at the first appointment?
We’ll talk about what brought you in, what each of you hopes will change, and what happens when things go wrong between you.
I’ll listen to both of you and begin looking for the pattern: where the conversation turns, what each person feels, and how you respond.
You’ll also get a feel for how I work. I ask questions, slow things down, and help guide the conversation. We’ll talk about where to begin and what we’re working toward.
A few things you might be wondering
A few questions before you come in.
Will you take sides?
I’ll work to understand both of you, and I’ll be direct about behavior that causes harm. Both partners need room to be heard, take responsibility, and make changes.
What if one of us is skeptical?
We can talk openly about that. Tell me what you’re doubtful about, what you’re tired of trying, or what you’re worried will happen here. You don’t have to arrive equally enthusiastic.
Do we have to be married?
No. I work with couples who are dating, engaged, or married.
What if we’ve tried couples therapy before?
Tell me what helped, what didn’t, and what you don’t want to repeat. I’ll explain how I work so you can make an informed decision about trying again.
In-person couples therapy near Joplin & Webb City
Let’s change what happens next.
You’ve spent enough evenings going over the same argument. Come in together, and let’s work on the moments where you keep losing each other.
The practical part
$250
90-minute double session
In person · Both partners present · Self-pay
Complete the brief electronic paperwork before you arrive.
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What we’re working toward
I want more for you than fewer fights.
The goal is intimacy and engagement: feeling close, turning toward each other, and enjoying being together again.
90 minutes · In person · Both partners present
Sessions are self-pay (I don’t take insurance), held in person near Joplin and Webb City, and designed for both partners to attend.
Pick the way that feels easiest.
Choose a time online, call or text me at 417-768-9089, or email me. If online scheduling feels like one more thing to coordinate, I will help you find a time that works.
Once you have a time, complete the brief electronic paperwork before you arrive. You do not need matching explanations, a polished history of every fight, or a rehearsed opening statement. You just need to show up.
Prefer a person? Call or text 417-768-9089 · Email shira@radicalrelationshiptransformation.com
Shira Hearn, LMFT MO #2022045023
In-person couples therapy near Joplin & Webb City.
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Webb City, MO 64870 · Serving the Joplin area
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